Little White Lies....

White lies. Tiny lies. The lies that make social interactions a bit more managable and tolerable over the course of a day.
I have to admit that there is a place for these kinds of lies, even though they should be used sparingly. Of course, my natural inclination is to tell the truth,which sometimes leads to relationships (between friends, colleagues, co-workers, etc) a bit rougher than they ought to be.

For example...perhaps I shouldn't have told the truth to a coworker when I said I had no real interest in what she was telling me at the moment. And perhaps I shouldn't have been as direct to a friend when I was outlining his faults.

I think there is a fine line between telling the truth, and being a hypocrite, and if I had a choice, I'd rather not be a hypocrite.

"What I lack in decorum, I make up for with an absence of tact.”

Wiser words were never spoken :)  I think that in the cold harsh light of day, I'd rather be told the truth in a kind, caring and compassionate way, than be lied to. And perhaps, be told the truth even when I might not want to hear it.

I bring this up because I think I was lied to this weekend. LOL, well, I'm sure I was lied to, but I'm not sure why. It had something to do with the social media we're all so involved in. FaceBook, Twitter, etc. As I mentioned to a friend of mine, I felt like Columbo...while everything seemed fine and the reason seemed logical for the action...upon the cold light of day, one realizes that something doesn't quite fit. Something is askew, askance, weird...whatever. The explanation doesn't jive with how it could happen.

So it led me to ask more questions, and more questions...and I honestly don't have the answers. And I don't think it's worth getting the answers at this point in time. I think the most charitable thing that can be said is that we all make decisions that we regret sometimes. However, even though we regret the decision and make pains to rectify it, or even reverse it...I think the fact that decisions are made to begin with still say something about us. The real person is the one that shows themselves when we aren't thinking, aren't analysing, but just doing.

But it does lead to the bigger questions of how do we in this society get along with each other? Where are the boundaries of civility, politeness, rudeness, comportment, etc? I think that has been the biggest casuality of the modern age--we've forgotten how to interact with each other. And yes, I'm guilty of that as well. Totally.

So what do we do about it? How do we go about breaking the electronic barriers and treating people like PEOPLE?