Was just thinking about love, and life, and relationships, etc....and I find it sad and a little bit disappointing that games are such a huge part of things, instead of honesty.
It's this choreographed sequence of movements, all designed to mask how we truly may feel about each other, so that we don't come off as crazy, or weird or plain loco. How many of us have
heard the rules about calling people after a date? " You can't call right away, but you have to call within 3 days", for example. Or how you have to play hard to get--not show too much eagerness, yet be eager enough, but not too distant or aloof...
It would be nice to be free of those rules and conventions that the dating world has placed on us, and just be ourselves when it comes to stuff life that. I mean...if you had a great date, and really liked the guy...CALL HIM. Or vice versa! Gender roles complicate things as well, and in the year 2011, shouldn't we really be past that. Gay, straight, bi, whatever, it would be nice if we could get past all the stuff that holds us back and just act honestly.
Now, I agree...it would be difficult for many people to adjust. And I'm not advising 100% honesty, without taking into consideration how the other person might feel. He/she might not be ready to hear after the first date that you are totally in love with them, and want to get hitched by the end of next week. LOL. But if you DO feel that way...lol...then maybe killing yourself waiting 2 days after the date to call might be a wrong tactic for you...
So the question is...how do get rid of the games and come to a middle ground that is closer to how each person feels? I'm a bubbly, effervescent sort when it comes to romance--if I like someone, it's hard for me not to keep that inside. I WANT to talk to them, etc. For those who are more cerebral and distance--you may like someone, but don't feel the need to go on about it to them incessantly.
On the other hand...if you don't like someone...SAY SO. In the grand scheme of things, will it really hurt to say, text, or email someone after an initial date, "I'm sorry, but I don't think it'll work", or something innocuous like that? I know...in this day and age, people are supposed to be able to "take a hint", or "read between the lines". But taking hints and reading between lines can lead to confusion and hurt feelings where they are miscontrued, or not detected.
So, that's about all for today....
Put on your feather boa and go shake and dance in front of your love interest. If the birds and bees have do it, so should you! Pretty much would get the same result...LOL. I do get your point though, not trying to be an absolute ass here :)
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